Dear Bunmi, he began searching for a potential mother of his child

Having been married for nearly seven years, with a six-year-old daughter, Kadijat's husband embarked on a serious affair, citing her difficulty in conceiving a second time as the reason, as he sought a woman who could give him more children.

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This development was no secret, as all their friends were aware of the situation, which was justified by Kadijat's husband as a means to find a woman who could provide him with additional children.

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However, fate had other plans, as Kadijat became pregnant last year and now has a six-month-old son, leading to a significant change in her husband's behavior, who is now extremely loving, caring, and attentive to their needs.

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Despite his current good behavior as a father, Kadijat is struggling to overcome the emotional turmoil she endured for three years, along with the humiliation caused by his actions.

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Kadijat is now seeking advice on whether it is possible for her to forgive and forget the past, inquiring if she can move forward from the pain inflicted by her husband's infidelity.

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According to the response, it is impossible to completely erase the memory of a past event, but it is possible to diminish the negative feelings associated with it by replacing them with more positive experiences.

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The advice given to Kadijat is to shift her focus away from the hurt caused by her husband's past actions and instead be grateful that she was the one who ultimately provided the desired child.

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The response cautions Kadijat against allowing resentment to destroy her marriage, emphasizing that the difficult period is now over and it is time for her to appreciate the loving family environment her husband is providing.